A lot of people indeed find this a little difficult to talk about. Because the social opinion is that sex is something that is done in secret and something that needs to be talked about in secret. Generally, it is best not to talk openly about your sex life unless absolutely necessary. Then it’s a problem for someone who has sex with you and talks openly about their sex life. Gentleman Never Kiss and Tell are also relevant.

But when a love affair begins, at some point you have to talk about sex. That means starting to feel sex with love anyway. But for a very forward couple, it will not be a big deal. But for two people who are not so forward, it is a challenge to talk about sex and when to talk about sex after starting a relationship. We are going to give you a few tips to win that challenge.

1. What is really involved?
   There really is something to think about before talking about sex within a newly started love affair. That is what their relationship really is. Why do we say that? The reason is simple. Before going for sex, both of you need to explain where you are. Do they have a romantic relationship or a sexual relationship? It’s a relationship based on sex, but it’s not a problem. But you both know it, and both of you have to be okay with it.
2. Timing is everything
   Okay, now if it’s clear what the relationship is, you can go down to sex. But before that, let’s talk about sex. It’s not like running to a lecture all of a sudden, talking for five minutes while in an emergency at the office. So you need to understand what the right timing is to talk about sex. A good time for both of you to relax is good. And it’s time for both of you to be in the right mood for it. Did you remember the time when you said that? Yes, it’s best to talk about it when you’ve been in bed at night and chatting.
   One more thing: Talking about sex in your relationship like in a chat is not going to be that good. Because they are more likely to not be able to express their feelings in a chat. Also, the ability to say things clearly in a chat is low. So a call is the best. But a video call can be upset. That is, to begin with, there is little room for talking, let alone embarrassing.
3. Is love a license to have sex?
   Here it is very important to understand this fact. Love does not mean getting a license to have sex. In other words, if you are in love, do not talk about sex if you are sitting on the premise that sex is something you deserve and that it is someone else’s responsibility to give you sex. To run a relationship, you have to have sex to be stable. Besides, a relationship cannot be as pure and magical as the moonlight on one side only. Especially if one party is trying to have sex for a long time and the other party wants sex, the relationship is more likely to break down or start side relationships. But remember: do not make it a cause for emotional blackmail. Don’t try to make sex your own by talking about it.
4. Bad Memories: Get to know the person first.
   This really happens when you go down to the sex topic before you know the facts about the two of you. Feelings, thoughts and memories about sex in the past in our lives now may not be good. Imagine that our partner has a very bitter memory about sex. Then, no matter how much love you have, the relationship can end when the sex talk comes directly. That’s why, no matter how much they want to come to the sex talk in a way. Also, it is important to get to know the other person before coming to the sex talk.
5. Positive, Not Critical.

Here this is very important. We need to understand beforehand that even a love talk, not a sex talk, requires mutual respect in a relationship. That it is not appropriate for the two of you to go and judge. Because the two are different from each other!
Now let’s say, in a sex talk one is a baby type who knows nothing about sex, has no idea. That is not a reason to criticize him. Also, let’s say one has a lot of experience with sex. That, too, is no reason to criticize him. If they have difficulty dealing with those things, it’s okay to separate, rather than criticize the other person while in the relationship.
Also, when it comes to sex, those fantasies should be viewed positively, not critically. That’s something to keep in mind.

6. Clear about fantasies?
When we say fantasies, we need to talk about them as well. In fact, most of the space in that sex talk is devoted to sharing ideas about each other’s fantasies. There are fantasies about what the other person likes to wear when they go to bed and where they like to have sex so they can talk without thinking too much. But there are other fantasies that can be a little sensitive. You have to be a little more careful when talking about those things. For example, one can have a threesome fantasy. But the other person may be deeply disgusted with such a fantasy. We said above not to be critical of each other’s fantasies. But in a situation like that, when it comes to fantasy, it’s best to make it clear that it is a fantasy that does not necessarily have to be done.
In fact, not all the sex fantasies in our heads can be realized. Some fantasies may not be extremely practical anyway. Others may not be practical due to the partner’s reluctance. Then we have to carry on the sex talk despite the fact that it is not practical

7. Do you want the past?
Here is another topic that needs to be considered. Some people want to know about their partner’s sexual history. Others do not want to know their partner’s sexual history. So you have to explain it first. They may also be reluctant to talk to their partner about their sexual experiences and past. It would be wrong to force us to say that even then.
Also, even if he wants to hear about our sexual past, it’s okay for us to say that, but we need to keep in mind that we are revealing information about other parties. For example, if a former partner of ours who had sex with us had a secret relationship with us, we are bound to protect that privacy in the same way. If anything we can tell about the experience without the names, without the details where the person can be found. But beyond that, we have no right to violate the aforementioned trust placed in us.